Understanding the basics of Masculine and Feminine Energy

Everything in this world has an energetic charge, either positive or negative. And within us, we all radiate aspects of both Feminine and Masculine energy.

While these energies are often called Masculine and Feminine, they aren't based on gender. Many people use other words such as Yin and Yang.

I took this excerpt from a blog I love to read https://alignednature.com/feminine-and-masculine-energies I copied this section from their blog because it is worded so beautifully in a way I believe everyone can understand.

“In writing about this subject I want to clarify that I am speaking about the masculine and feminine independent of gender. Whether male, female, or non-binary, we are all a mix of masculine and feminine, we all use both energies and contain them to differing degrees, and the amount and the balance between them will change for all of us in different circumstances and times”

I truly believe that learning about these energies, how you live within them throughout the day and what daily tasks embody certain energies - will allow you to become aware of your energetic balance as well as find polarities in relationships (More on that later).

Every individual's balance of feminine and masculine energy will be different. However, we all need and require both energies to live in harmony.

In our society, a lot of us stay in our masculine (doing) energy more than we need, which creates an uneven split. Resulting in feelings of burnout, lack of creativity and fatigue.

Most of us are afraid to slow down, take a break, be alone and present, as well as be selfish with our time and give love to ourselves.

We associate our worth with productivity. “I didn’t get enough done today, I am so lazy”

That thought or sentence sound familiar?

Let’s define both energies and some examples of each so that you can begin to become aware of what energy you may spend more time in.

Feminine energy is the slow, nurturing, loving, patient and pleasure based energy. It prioritises rest, creativity, love, self-pleasure and slowing down.

Wounded feminine energy may result in things such as

• People pleasing and trying to overcompensate in relationships

• Needy and high self-doubt, demands love to feel worthy and fill a void

• Jealousy

• Feels emotions very heavily

• Self-opinionated

• She is needy in her relationships, she needs to feel loved and asks (begs) for it

• She over connects and over shares her emotions and needs

• She can come across as inauthentic

• No boundaries or self-control

• Chases validation from others

When we go on with life with unhealed wounded feminine energy you may also see that you attract:

• Narcissistic relationships

• partners who are emotionally unavailable

• Money may also feel hard to receive and always feel like you have to “pay something” resulting in never being able to save.

Do you often know you deserve better yet can’t speak your truth and set boundaries?

How to heal your wounded feminine?

Self-soothe and reaffirm and validate your inner child and disempower your limiting beliefs and inner mean girl.

I will go into this more in another blog post.

How to step into your feminine energy

• Listen to your intuition

• Be receptive of love and service

• Be compassionate

• Be vulnerable

• Get creative

• Meditate

• Dance

• Walk-in nature and touch it

• Reflect (journalling)

• Self-pleasure

• Affirmations

• Gratitude

• Rest

• Massages

Masculine energy is your doing energy. It is active, productive and supportive. It has boundaries yet is stable, secure and logical.

A wounded masculine maybe

• Controlling

• Aggressive

• Emotionally withdrawn

• Competitive

• Abusive

• Narcissistic

When we live with wounded masculine energy we

• Have to be always busy

• Maybe a chronic overthinker

• Feel rigid and tense

• Controlling and easily triggered/Angry

• Need control

• Need to always win

• Need to be right

• Can’t listen or connect well with others

• Aren’t in touch with our emotions

• Defend by attacking others

• Fear failure

• Run from love

How to begin healing wounded masculine?

Get grounded, be still, meditate, do breathwork and make decisions and choices at this point. Learn to slow down and ask yourself “why am I acting from this place?”

We attract the opposite of what we are, creating polarities. Wounded feminine energy will attract a wounded masculine man, and a divine masculine will attract a divine feminine and vice versa.

We all have aspects of our masculine and feminine energies which are wounded and divine. What we need to do to become fully divine is to identify our wounds within these energies, where did they come from, how did they start? Go within, journal, meditate, do shadow work ect.

Look at how your parents/careers modelled masculine and feminine energy, was theirs wounded? And is that all you've grown to know? Have you experienced deep fear, hurt or trauma?

You can heal yourself, it’s not easy but you just have to begin.